Am I being unreasonable? My fiancé and I love kids, we love our nieces and nephews and all that BUT we are paying for our wedding ourselves and I have told everyone the there will be no kids allowed at our wedding except ours who are in the wedding. We also said that if people (adults) are not able to attend we will back fill with kids.
For almost everyone this was fine. Cue: FMIL she had a melt down about “her grand babies this and that” Y’all they are teens and pre teens, they’re not tiny and arrangements have been made. Every plate /seat has to be paid for and the exception is we get free 4 highchairs for under two. I had a very close family friend refuse to come because she couldn’t bring her kids. I said actually they’re under two you absolutely can bring them, she still declined. I was like ummm ok. Then MIL said she’d pay for the kids to be there, but when I thanked her for her generosity and told her how many kids, she cut me off and said “no just my grand kids, not your side of the family” I told her no. I told her “you can’t do for some and not all so we will stick to the original plan” She wasn’t happy.
So … Am I being unreasonable?