I normally go to a Mental health/social program four different times with the program I had lack of commutation with them.
A typical normal day at the program would be something in the morning-a workshop maybe, or someone doing a presentation- sometimes we also would make a future calendar. A example of a presentation is my ASL presentation. Then we would have lunch that was decided on a couple of months previously (mini pizzas, stir-fry, potlucks). And then do something else in the afternoon.
Because I take the bus to get over there and back-I sometimes didn’t go to the program if it was very cold or very icy. In this first account that at the time, the room’s phone weren’t hooked up to the apartment building so the only way to get inside was a half of a sandwich board with a “doorbell” which we had to ring. Which is set up against the side window of a door.
One year I didn’t go to the program on the Monday in February because it was frostbite weather. So when I was going to go back to the program on the Thursday. At first I was a bit confused of why there wasn’t the “doorbell” stand but then I discovered that program was cancelled due to a pipe bursting in the then new office area. I had no idea about that. I was a bit upset since I had no idea what to do but I figured it out eventually managed to get a bus back home and called the house from my church.
Now there’s three leaders in the program from various agencies in community. One leader position keeps changing every 2-3 years. So in my head I think of it was “cursed” like a class from Harry Potter. One of the leaders, Let’s call her “B”. I’m not a major fan of. Sometimes it seems like she’s picking on me.
**Now going back to the calendar thing I mentioned above-sometimes we would have “field trips” to some place: ROM-Royal Ontario Museum, Ripley’s Aquarium, the Zoo, or to a Blue Jays Game-I been to three thanks to day-program. **
** Now for the Ripley’s Aquarium visit and the first of the BlueJays game I went too- our “sister program” in my town made lunches for us. But the other trips we had to either bring our own lunch or buy something there.**
Another year- 2015 I was doing two programs-this program, and I also doing a “work” program (which I consider now a waste of my time)- which took up my Thursday time which I would normally be at this program
Anyway for March 2015 we were planning on going to the ROM. Now I have a VERY Good memory recall-and for weeks prior to going to the ROM (it would be on the Monday so I could go as well)-the leaders were saying “that they will deal with lunches” but then like about 2-3 weeks before the leaders are still saying they “will deal with lunches but they also have a meeting”.
But I show up there on the Monday and get very confused about there being no lunches. Leader “B” said “We told you that you needed to bring your own lunch or buy something at ROM”.
But I discovered latter on the trip, that they only started saying that on Wednesday prior and since I never go to program on Wednesday how was I suppose to know? I’m so grateful, I had a bank card by that time.
March 2019-it’s Monday of March Break and my day-program is supposed to have a potluck on this day. Anyway, Mom and Dad had an appointment at the doctors so couldn’t hang around after dropping me off at the program building.
The plan was mom and Dad would drop me off at the program, I would enjoy the program and the potluck, and then they would pick me up later and we would go see a movie at the theatre.
So I’m carrying a backpack, potluck cake Mom made, and a plastic bag of containers for the coffeegrinds (I was collecting them from the Program’s urn), and have just been dropped off. I spot something on the notice board…
The pot luck event has been cancelled; water has been turned off. I turned around to go back to the car but the car was pulling away and the car was too far away for me to flag down. I was so upset I couldn’t even remember the name of the doctor’s clinic although I could remember the roads it was on. My phone didn’t have Internet access so I couldn’t get the number, and neither of my parents had a phone with them.
I was very upset, and went next door to the grocery store. One woman manager asked me what was wrong and just suggested I go to the town’s library. Unfortunately I did not know where the library was, and in any case I had too much heavy stuff to carry.
Another manager, a man asked me what was wrong and used his cell phone to look up some doctor’s offices in the area. After a couple of tries, I got the right one, and the receptionist said she would tell my parents at the right clinic.
Unfortunately, because I was so stressed and upset, I forgot to say I was at the store, not the Program Venue. I was very lucky that Dad did find me as he had to drive past the building again.
All of this stress could have been avoided if the Program Staff had rung everybody before hand!
Background: In normal summers there’s four picnics at the lakeside Rotary Park in (town). I can only attend 3 of them out of the four: June, August and the last one in Sept. I don’t go to the July one since I’m normally helping with Bible Camp that week.
The last time was late July 2020. They said they’re thinking of having a outside get together at their Rotary park (my town also has one) in the first week of August. I sent back some questions and I never got a reply (questions like “what day is it?” and “Do we need to bring food?” etc)
Well I assumed it would be on the Thursday-since Monday of that first week was a holiday. Turn out it was on the Friday, and no one showed up because we normally never have anything on the Fridays (get together at the Tim Hortons restaurant aren’t really associated with the program)
And the one leader “claimed” to have only certain spots avaible but they never said any thing about how many people could “sign up” in the original email.