I haven’t been to a general doctor for a checkup in at least nine years (I actually can’t remember for sure). I’m lucky to be pretty physically healthy - I don’t get sick or hurt much - and spending a couple of years without insurance gave me a habit of waiting to see if assorted symptoms would just go away, and they usually have. But I did finally start seeing a therapist recently, and she encouraged me to find a doctor, get a checkup, and run some blood tests, just to see where I’m really at.
The first few doctors I tried to contact either weren’t taking new patients or didn’t respond to my calls and messages at all. So I finally found a larger practice that basically stuck me with the first practitioner they had available.
So far, I’ve had three separate meetings with this Physician’s Assistant, and each one has left me with a worse feeling than the last. While I appreciate not having things sugar-coated, this PA is unreasonably blunt. She seems to care for her patients but completely lacks tact, social grace, bedside manner, whatever you want to call it. She seems to make snap judgments about my mental health based on very short interactions, and she makes offhand comments that really feel like backhanded compliments.
When my blood test results came back, she burst into the exam room announcing loudly that (although I’m not even thirty) I was going to have a heart attack any day, my numbers were off the charts, and that she’d written me a prescription for cholesterol medication that I needed to start taking immediately. She didn’t discuss options with me or explain what the medication does or anything; she dictated her instructions and then marched out.
And, most egregiously, at my last appointment, she told me that a medication I’m taking for [condition #1] is also effective in treatment for [condition #2], which is absolutely not true according to my therapist and the research I’ve personally done on the medication; in fact, for many people, it actually negatively impacts [condition #2].
tl;dr my doctor makes me feel guilty, insecure, and unheard, and I’m not 100% convinced she always knows what she’s talking about. Am I being unreasonable for wanting to find another doctor? Am I being too sensitive?